“British women ‘have the LOWEST self-esteem in the world’ with 80% unhappy with the way they look.”
The Dove Global Beauty and Confidence Report 2018
With all the advantages we have, living in a free country with the opportunity to make choices about how we live and how we care for ourselves, I find this statistic SO SAD.
Yet I spent most of my life feeling inferior, lacking self-esteem, and finding myself in all manner of difficulty with relationships, finances, and health. I was unhappy, lacking direction and fulfilment, and believed that a man would ‘complete’ me. This was nothing to do with how I looked, I was a pretty young woman, but my lack of worth was evident in my demeanour, clearly evident here..
As a believer in the fact that body-confidence comes from within and stems from how we FEEL about ourselves rather than the way we look, we need to address the burning issue of self-love – or lack of – NOW.
Self-love is often seen as selfish, unattainable, only for others, even arrogant! Yet lack of it has a detrimental effect on our lives.
Kristin Neff, the pioneer of self-compassion research, describes this as follows:
“Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness, concern, and support you’d show to a good friend. When faced with difficult life struggles, or confronting personal mistakes, failures, and inadequacies, self-compassion responds with kindness rather than harsh self-judgement, recognising that imperfection is part of the shared human experience.” (Neff & Dahm, 2015)
HOW CAN WE TACKLE SUCH A HUGE CHALLENGE?
It took me until my late 50’s to begin to increase my self-esteem and learn to love myself. Now, at 61, I am living proof that it is never too late to know your worth and that self-love brings all sorts of happiness and joy! Life is far too short to live it in a state of low self-esteem and suffer the consequences of this, so my life’s purpose has become encouraging and empowering other women to value and love themselves – far earlier than the age of 61!
The Women of Spirit community is working towards enabling women to develop a more loving relationship with themselves, so they can be excited about living a life of abundance and joy.
By sharing our life experiences we support women who face extraordinary personal challenges by sharing our own powerful stories of triumph over adversity. We are the light at the end of the tunnel, and with our guidance, women know that they are not alone.
HOW CAN YOU HELP?
How can you help Women of Spirit reach more women and help them to grow towards self-love? We are already making a difference, but we need help to aid with growth and reach, so we are soon launching a Kickstarter Crowdfunding Campaign and we have some wonderful rewards for those who pledge.
We will keep you posted, so look out for updates!